Friday, August 2, 2019

The Paper

What he didn't know and possibly still doesn't know is that M saw this when she was about 13 years old.

If you're reading this, you might ask why I would allow my child to read this at the age of 13. SD already had a habit of breaking her heart with disappointment. He broke it again at that age when, for the second time, he promised her he would pay for her school trip and backed out the MORNING the down payment was due. My child was bawling. She believed he cared more about his current wife than he did her. I was explaining that perhaps that was true because he never wanted kids anyway. I showed her the evidence on this paper.  No, it doesn't say that he never wanted kids. At this point, you have to take my word for it that he said it (and perhaps I will later tell you the context in which that came up).

Was it wrong of me to show her that at her age? Some would say yes. Some would say I was wrong to ever show it to her. But my 13 year old wasn't your average run-of-the-mill 13-year-old. This child had an extremely high IQ and went to a school for gifted children (when we lived near one) because of it. She's not stupid. She never has been. This was a piece of information that she needed to have at that moment in her life.

What's the worst part about it (for me)? I was actually trying to defend his behavior. At least I was doing it to try to soften the blow to my baby's heart.