Friday, December 17, 2010

Hair Confessions Part 2

When I got to the salon, Jan was finishing up with another customer and telling the other customer a story about her grand-daughter.  This particular story took place on the day of the JHS Homecoming dance last September.  My daughters were there getting their hair styled for the dance when Jan's grand-daughter stopped in.

Jan finished her story as she finished the hair of the other customer.  The customer, in the middle of writing her check to Jan stopped, looked at me and asked, "You have children in high school? I never would have guessed you were old enough to have children in high school."

This was before Jan covered the grays that had slowly started invading my life.


Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Hair Confessions

Throughout my adult life I have adamently been opposed to coloring my hair.  When I was very young, I wasn't "allowed" to get my hair colored, even though I wasn't satisfied with it's mousy brown look.

By the time I was old enough to do whatever I wanted with my hair, I was no longer interested.  Brown, yes.  Mousy, no.  It had natural red and blond highlights.  I liked it.

Tonight, I have an appointment for my hair. 

Tonight, I'll be getting some sort of coloring done to it, just as I did (for the first time in my life) last May. 

Why?  Because I can't deal with my hair getting old faster than I am!  Okay, maybe it's not that bad, but I'll not be able to count the grays to tell you how many there are.  Before my first adventure to coloring, I could easily count 10-20...that I could see without using a second mirror.  I have no idea how many were in the back being noticed by others.  And no, I couldn't deal.  I can't deal.  I still associate gray hair with "old" people.  I still feel like I'm in my twenties rather than someone who has passed their 20 year high school reunion mark.  Hell, I can't be gray-haired if my mom isn't gray-haired, right?!

Perhaps someday I'll be ready to see the gray signs of age when I look in the mirror, but not yet.  How about you?

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

If Only We Could Rid the World Of...

Ignorance. Intolerance. Hate.

Those are definitely things I would jump to rid the world of.

I try to look at every moment in my life as a necessary moment for my own personal growth. I try to avoid self-pity, but sometimes, I find it dificult to maintain a positive attitude. As November 2010 comes to a close, I am happily bidding it good-bye.  I'll spare you all the horrid details of what made November 2010 particularly gruesome for me, but I have to share this.

I was recently reminded of the hate often exhibited in this world when you don't meet the "norm" standard of another. Those so vehemently opposed to homosexuality that they would violently display their hatred, intolerance and ignorance is something that I find extremely difficult to understand. I can't fathom the consuming hatred that spurs violent acts toward another person because they have a different lifestyle than I do.

I've certainly always considered my hometown as a fairly safe place to live. Yes, it is Jackson, Michigan. Yes, we have a prison here. Yes, that sometimes makes me feel safer to live here. No, I never considered that it would be an unsafe place for homosexual people to live, work and play. We have a Club Detour! How can Jackson NOT be safe for homosexuals?! But alas, rumors of an unsafe Jackson (for homosexuals, at least) have led me to dig further in the best way I know how. I asked a homosexual friend. I'm sad to report that this particular friend confirmed that while Jackson isn't necessarily any more or less safe than most cities, Jackson is a place that you shouldn't "flaunt" it, especially if you're male.

Ok. Define flaunt. The way Merriam-Webster defines it, I would say flaunting is bad whether you're homosexual or heterosexual. But I don't think that's what she meant. I think she meant simply that as a gay man in Jackson, Michigan you may want to remain somewhat closeted. To me, that's wrong.

I know that a lot of people may want to start spouting religious doctrine and talk about how it's against God's plan. It''s unnatural. It's wrong. It's a sin.

But perhaps God's lesson for you then, is tolerance.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Banned Book Week

Did you know it's Banned Book Week?  How many banned/challenged books have you read?

Here's the American Library Association's Top 100 Banned/Challenged Books: 2000-2009

1. Harry Potter (series), by J.K. Rowling

2. Alice series, by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor

3. The Chocolate War, by Robert Cormier

4. And Tango Makes Three, by Justin Richardson/Peter Parnell

5. Of Mice and Men, by John Steinbeck

6. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, by Maya Angelou

7.Scary Stories (series), by Alvin Schwartz

8. His Dark Materials (series), by Philip Pullman

9. ttyl; ttfn; l8r g8r (series), by Myracle, Lauren

10. The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky

11. Fallen Angels, by Walter Dean Myers

12. It’s Perfectly Normal, by Robie Harris

13. Captain Underpants (series), by Dav Pilkey

14. The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, by Mark Twain

15.The Bluest Eye, by Toni Morrison

16. Forever, by Judy Blume

17. The Color Purple, by Alice Walker

18. Go Ask Alice, by Anonymous

19. Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinger

20. King and King, by Linda de Haan

21. To Kill A Mockingbird, by Harper Lee

22. Gossip Girl (series), by Cecily von Ziegesar

23. The Giver, by Lois Lowry

24. In the Night Kitchen, by Maurice Sendak

25. Killing Mr. Griffen, by Lois Duncan

26. Beloved, by Toni Morrison

27. My Brother Sam Is Dead, by James Lincoln Collier

28. Bridge To Terabithia, by Katherine Paterson

29. The Face on the Milk Carton, by Caroline B. Cooney

30. We All Fall Down, by Robert Cormier

31. What My Mother Doesn’t Know, by Sonya Sones

32. Bless Me, Ultima, by Rudolfo Anaya

33. Snow Falling on Cedars, by David Guterson

34. The Earth, My Butt, and Other Big, Round Things, by Carolyn Mackler

35. Angus, Thongs, and Full Frontal Snogging, by Louise Rennison

36. Brave New World, by Aldous Huxley

37. It’s So Amazing, by Robie Harris

38. Arming America, by Michael Bellasiles

39. Kaffir Boy, by Mark Mathabane

40. Life is Funny, by E.R. Frank

41. Whale Talk, by Chris Crutcher

42. The Fighting Ground, by Avi

43. Blubber, by Judy Blume

44. Athletic Shorts, by Chris Crutcher

45. Crazy Lady, by Jane Leslie Conly

46. Slaughterhouse-Five, by Kurt Vonnegut

47. The Adventures of Super Diaper Baby, by George Beard

48. Rainbow Boys, by Alex Sanchez

49. One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, by Ken Kesey

50. The Kite Runner, by Khaled Hosseini

51. Daughters of Eve, by Lois Duncan

52. The Great Gilly Hopkins, by Katherine Paterson

53. You Hear Me?, by Betsy Franco

54. The Facts Speak for Themselves, by Brock Cole

55. Summer of My German Soldier, by Bette Green

56. When Dad Killed Mom, by Julius Lester

57. Blood and Chocolate, by Annette Curtis Klause

58. Fat Kid Rules the World, by K.L. Going

59. Olive’s Ocean, by Kevin Henkes

60. Speak, by Laurie Halse Anderson

61. Draw Me A Star, by Eric Carle

62. The Stupids (series), by Harry Allard

63.The Terrorist, by Caroline B. Cooney

64. Mick Harte Was Here, by Barbara Park

65. The Things They Carried, by Tim O’Brien

66. Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry, by Mildred Taylor

67. A Time to Kill, by John Grisham

68. Always Running, by Luis Rodriguez

69. Fahrenheit 451, by Ray Bradbury

70. Harris and Me, by Gary Paulsen

71. Junie B. Jones (series), by Barbara Park

72. Song of Solomon, by Toni Morrison

73. What’s Happening to My Body Book, by Lynda Madaras

74. The Lovely Bones, by Alice Sebold

75. Anastasia (series), by Lois Lowry

76. A Prayer for Owen Meany, by John Irving

77. Crazy: A Novel, by Benjamin Lebert

78. The Joy of Gay Sex, by Dr. Charles Silverstein

79. The Upstairs Room, by Johanna Reiss

80. A Day No Pigs Would Die, by Robert Newton Peck

81. Black Boy, by Richard Wright

82. Deal With It!, by Esther Drill

83. Detour for Emmy, by Marilyn Reynolds

84. So Far From the Bamboo Grove, by Yoko Watkins

85. Staying Fat for Sarah Byrnes, by Chris Crutcher

86. Cut, by Patricia McCormick

87. Tiger Eyes, by Judy Blume

88. The Handmaid’s Tale, by Margaret Atwood

89. Friday Night Lights, by H.G. Bissenger

90. A Wrinkle in Time, by Madeline L’Engle

91. Julie of the Wolves, by Jean Craighead George

92. The Boy Who Lost His Face, by Louis Sachar

93. Bumps in the Night, by Harry Allard

94. Goosebumps (series), by R.L. Stine

95. Shade’s Children, by Garth Nix

96. Grendel, by John Gardner

97. The House of the Spirits, by Isabel Allende

98. I Saw Esau, by Iona Opte

99. Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret, by Judy Blume

100. America: A Novel, by E.R. Frank

Check out the American Library Association website for more information on Banned Book Week!