Tuesday, November 30, 2010

If Only We Could Rid the World Of...

Ignorance. Intolerance. Hate.

Those are definitely things I would jump to rid the world of.

I try to look at every moment in my life as a necessary moment for my own personal growth. I try to avoid self-pity, but sometimes, I find it dificult to maintain a positive attitude. As November 2010 comes to a close, I am happily bidding it good-bye.  I'll spare you all the horrid details of what made November 2010 particularly gruesome for me, but I have to share this.

I was recently reminded of the hate often exhibited in this world when you don't meet the "norm" standard of another. Those so vehemently opposed to homosexuality that they would violently display their hatred, intolerance and ignorance is something that I find extremely difficult to understand. I can't fathom the consuming hatred that spurs violent acts toward another person because they have a different lifestyle than I do.

I've certainly always considered my hometown as a fairly safe place to live. Yes, it is Jackson, Michigan. Yes, we have a prison here. Yes, that sometimes makes me feel safer to live here. No, I never considered that it would be an unsafe place for homosexual people to live, work and play. We have a Club Detour! How can Jackson NOT be safe for homosexuals?! But alas, rumors of an unsafe Jackson (for homosexuals, at least) have led me to dig further in the best way I know how. I asked a homosexual friend. I'm sad to report that this particular friend confirmed that while Jackson isn't necessarily any more or less safe than most cities, Jackson is a place that you shouldn't "flaunt" it, especially if you're male.

Ok. Define flaunt. The way Merriam-Webster defines it, I would say flaunting is bad whether you're homosexual or heterosexual. But I don't think that's what she meant. I think she meant simply that as a gay man in Jackson, Michigan you may want to remain somewhat closeted. To me, that's wrong.

I know that a lot of people may want to start spouting religious doctrine and talk about how it's against God's plan. It''s unnatural. It's wrong. It's a sin.

But perhaps God's lesson for you then, is tolerance.


  1. This post inspires me. As a mom, I work so hard to ensure that my kids see all people as inherently worthy of respect and love. I know you do the same with your girls. Hopefully more parents will teach tolerance and love over hate and bigotry, that is the only way to change the future

  2. Thanks.

    I was so disheartened to learn that hatred is so much more prevalent where I live than I ever guessed.