A status posted by "The Problem with Women...is Men" on Facebook:
"Forgiveness doesn't mean they didn't hurt you. It means that what they did no longer controls your life... and that you have taken back your personal power."
The timeliness of this is profound to me, based on my epiphany the other day regarding forgiveness.
It has been driving me crazy that Jessica speaks of my amazing ability to forgive because I keep thinking about those three people and how I haven't forgiven them.
But forgiveness doesn't mean that I have to allow them to be a part of my life. I have forgiven all of them for the actions they committed against me. When I continue to live my life without letting what they did affect me, I have forgiven them.
Yes, it hurts some when they are mentioned in conversations. But I don't cry over them. And I don't stop trusting others because of their behavior.
I'm reading The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. The second agreement is to not take it personally. These three people are teaching me to not take it personally.
And I must forgive myself.
For taking it personally.