Tuesday, March 20, 2012

GOP War on Women

I posted an op-ed piece from a woman in Ann Arbor, Susan J. Demas, to my Facebook wall.

A friend of mine commented, "wow... full of fallacies, but interesting nonetheless..."  So I asked my friend to point out the fallacies he speaks of.

This was his response:

1.there is no GOP war on women in reality, it is a figment of the main stream media's imagination, which they keep seizing on any opportunity to spout it out, when nobody on the streets mentions it...

2. Rush Limbaugh is not the head of the GOP, nor has he ever been, although he jokes regularly about being the de facto leader because the media has dubbed him so, not the people, nor the GOP.

3. Liberal leaning women are not going to win the White House for the GOP, a majority of the voters present on election day will, be it by liberals not voting for the teleprompter or more conservatives showing up to keep the teleprompter from further destroying this country.

4. Nobody has declared war on birth control. Obamacare (aka the affordable health care act-truly an oxymoron) is supposed to mandate that all employers must provide birth control free of cost to their employees, regardless of religious beliefs (which is not constitutional)... Obamacare is what war has been declared upon if anything.

5. She states that Republicans are turning the clock back 50 years on birth control. How so? If she means to imply that health care NOT being Mandated to completely cover birth control, then that would be a direct falsehood, but perhaps she means that health insurance wouldn't cover birth control at all anymore, which would also be false.

6.There are ways to guarantee not bringing a child into the world that don't involve the pill, look up The Creighton model at and you'll see the best option.

7. Standing against mandating free birth control is not treating women like "sluts or damn children", most folks I know don't want to pay for the handing out of "free" birth control NOR force any religious entity to violate it's own teachings to make some teleprompter or some Catholic in name only (Pelosi) happy."

My counter arguments for the above statements:

1. Proof of the GOP war on women:

*Virginia pushing a bill requiring transvaginal ultrasounds to determine fetal age under the guise that the fetus is too small to be detected on an abdominal ultrasound. If it’s too small/young to be found on an abdominal ultrasound, then it must be within the legal parameters to NOT be classified as a partial-birth abortion.

*Arizona pushing a bill to require employees of religious institutions to PROVE their prescribed birth control pills aren’t being used for contraception.

*Georgia Rep. Terry England comparing women to livestock while defending a proposed bill that would require women to carry their dead babies (or babies determined unable to survive) to term rather than having an abortion at 20 weeks.

*Wisconsin Senator Glenn Grothman introducing a bill penalizing women for being single mothers, claiming that it’s child abuse.

*Wisconsin Representative Don Pridemore who claims that women shouldn’t be allowed to divorce for any reason, even domestic abuse, because fathers are the only ones who provide structure and discipline.

*Texas de-funding Planned Parenthood.

*Republican Presidential candidates wanting to de-fund Planned Parenthood.

*Viagra is covered by health insurance but birth control pills aren’t.

2. Rush Limbaugh being a de-facto leader or not is nit-picking. Fact: I haven’t heard one Republican admonishment to Rush for him calling Sandra Fluke a slut.

3. No way you can prove or disprove her statement.  When the numbers have been counted and you can “prove”  it wasn’t the “liberal leaning women” who won the WH, THEN you can call that statement a fallacy.  And it’s a little insulting and disturbing when you classify “women who think they have the right to do what they want with their own bodies” as “liberal leaning.”

4. It’s mandating that health insurance provide birth control pills at no-cost. Not religious employers.

5. Republicans are turning the clock back 50 years by trying to reverse all the gains women have had toward their own independence. Why do independent women scare them so?

6. You’re missing the point that birth control pills aren’t JUST about not wanting to get pregnant.  There are myriad medical reasons for birth control, but because they’re “classified” as birth control, some insurances won’t cover it.  Some girls and women have such debilitating cramps that they can’t crawl out of bed. BCP helps. Men can not FATHOM what it’s like to be a woman so I don’t understand why they think they know BETTER than we do about our bodies.

7. Every person you know who pays their taxes already pays for free birth control because Federal employees get that as part of their compensation.  Funny thing is, they can more likely AFFORD the out of pocket costs compared to the woman living on the poor side of town.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am not a "fan" of President Obama, but I must ask that you refrain from calling him “the teleprompter” on my wall or on my posts.  I may not be a fan but I won’t disrespect him or the office he holds by tolerating that.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Life After the Training Disaster

"You got a dog to test how much I love you, didn't you?"

That was Steve's question to me last night as we were getting ready for bed.

I didn't have to think.  The answer was a simple, "No. But it sure is proving how much you love me."

When you look at him in his calm state, it's incredibly difficult to believe he can be such a terror.

The day after we fired TLC Dog Training was more of the same. Frankly, I've never been more battered and bruised in my life.  I'd be doing the circuit at Planet Fitness, always starting off with my sweatshirt on, then taking off the sweatshirt as the workout progressed (with my workout tank underneath).  I'd look at the bruises on my arms and begin to imagine the thoughts going through people's heads.  I even practiced a come-back if anyone asked me about the bruises.  I'd tell them it was the result of training.  Teehee, haha, but that's not something I joke about.

I immediately hit the net for information with the most immediate need being a way to stop Buddy from biting us.  There were a lot of ideas, and we've tried most of them.

We discovered two things early on.  The first was that Buddy was terrified of the umbrella.  The second was that he abhorred one of my cake pans.

I don't recall how we discovered the fear of the umbrella, but I can tell you that I've never seen a dog cower so much and so quickly.  He would see the umbrella and dash for the nearest piece of furniture he could hide under.  No, we haven't been using the umbrella on Buddy because we don't want him terrified.  We want him trained.

The cake pan was amusing.  And we think it has something to do with the silver, mirror-like bottom, but when held out in front of you like a shield, Buddy goes a bit berserk, barking and lurching at it but constantly staying far enough away from it to maintain a "safe" distance.  Because the cake pan seems to insight additional rambunctious behavior, it is also not a tool of choice.

It's not easy finding information on the internet about stopping your adult dog from biting you.  As a matter of fact, it's virtually impossible.  I realized quickly that I need to approach this problem from a different perspective, while remaining aware of the unique situation we were in. I had to remember that everything we learned about Buddy indicated he had never been trained or worked with prior to our adopting him.  We were dealing with a puppy mentality in an adult dog body.  60 pounds of puppy jaws biting on us daily.  A wayward teenager who never received any loving or firm guidance.  We had a chore in front of us.

We tried yelling near his head. We tried a spray bottle of water. We added lemon juice to the water bottle. We tried a can with dried beans in it.  We tried ignoring him.  We tried walking away.

We have finally found two things that are currently successful in our endeavor to end our lives as chew toys.  A towel rolled in a rat tail and a muzzle.  Sometimes the towel doesn't even have to be rolled up.  Sometimes it's necessary to take it the step further and put the muzzle on him.  Neither options are used unnecessarily.  And even the muzzle is a short lived event.  Typically, he has to wear it for about five minutes.  It tends to be long enough to calm him.  When he's calm, he's not biting.  It's been a couple of weeks and it's still a work in progress, but the bruises are fewer and the use of the towel and muzzle have decreased exponentially.  To visit the house on a regular day, you may wonder.  Tonight he wore the muzzle three times.  Trust me, it's much less than in the beginning!